It is very important for parents to be able to communicate openly and effectively with their children. Open, effective communication benefits not only the children, but every member of the family. Relationships between parents and their children are greatly improved when there is effective communication taking place. When parents nag and pressurize them, children feel inadequate when they are not able to meet the targets. Therefore, it leads to low self-esteem and self-criticism in them.
Lack of communication can be damaging effect of strict parenting. Children afraid of constant criticism and rebuke learn to keep their thoughts and feelings to themselves, as an act of self preservation. This unhealthy behavior can be further aggravated when children come across problems they don’t know how to solve.
Children can be too afraid to ask their parents for help, for fear of punishment or blame for failure to avoid the problem in the first place. Strict parenting can cause children to avoid the very parental wisdom they should be seeking.
Tips for the parents to maintain a good communication with their children are as follows
- Talk during the in-betweens.
- Respond to your child with real emotions.
- Talk about yourself if you want your kids to talk about themselves.
- Listen and then talk. Listen to all their problems and then talk.
- Be calm and patient while talking to your kids.
- Do not threaten them.
- Advice and guide them.
- Use calm words to them.
- Do not suddenly express all your feelings to them.
- Be a role model to your kids.
“At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is, the positive involvement of parents.”
A lot of people might think parenthood is just about having children. However, parenthood is a long and difficult journey where one does not simply bring a new human life into the world, but leads them on a journey to adulthood. Parents are not only responsible for child’s health care but also for their mental health.
Parenthood is about accepting that you are primarily responsible for your child’s education, well-being, safety, emotional maturity and eventual attainment of adulthood. Parents need to understand, that the parent is one of the most important teachers a child will have. A good society needs, good youths, the good youths are raised by good parents. So maintain a healthy relationship with your children and create a healthy society.